No job quite measures up to the responsibility of motherhood. The blood, sweat and tears are not — in any sense — metaphorical. Motherhood is sometimes described as the hardest job a woman can have in this world.
Is Balancing Work & Career A Lie?
At what point do women sacrifice their careers for their families? And is balance just something we all think is the end goal, while realistically neither family nor work get the attention they need?
Each person’s rhythm is unique. Of course, having personal balance is important, but so is your happiness. Balance might look very different for one woman than it does for another.
As Blake Lively noted to Allure, “Most of the things I do are all-consuming, but somehow I find a way to do it all. It’s not having it all; it’s about doing it all. But it’s dangerous to dilute that to a catchphrase. Having it all could be having a happy, healthy family, and you could be a mom who stays at home, and that is the most admirable thing you could do. Or it could be having a profession that you really believe in and not having a family and doing what fulfills you.”
For me, it’s my choice to incorporate personal aspirations such as guitar, painting, tennis, travel and other interests into my life. I need a lot of texture and variety to feel like I’m living — or as Lively puts it, to be fulfilled. By including my daughter in many of my own experiences, such as bringing her on business trips and doing tennis lessons, guitar lessons and painting together, we have created our own unique moments and developed our interests together. Our journey is unique to us.